The Season of Being Single

Are you currently in the season of being single? Let's figure out how to make the most of it.

We all have cycles in different areas of life, and sometimes we have a lot of resistance to them.

It's important to be able to recognize what season we're in and what the purpose of that season is, because otherwise it might go to waste. We might not get everything we need from that season to prepare us for the next part of our journey.  

Keep in mind that being single is a season and not a life sentence, so enjoy it while you're here and try to make the most of it.

Relationships require a lot of attentiveness, energy, and thoughtfulness. We give a lot to a relationship, and that's a really good thing.

But when you're not in a relationship, you can direct that energy into yourself and other areas of your life, because that creates the foundation for your future relationship.

If the thought of being single for a year makes your heart sink, that's your first sign that there's a crack in your foundation.

In a big way, this season of being single is about building your foundation to be ready for a relationship.

Look at are your health, your career, your friendships, your hobbies, and the way that you spend your time on a day to day basis.

What's feeling good? What's not feeling so great, and how can you start to take steps forward in those areas?

The second part of that foundation is having big things that you're looking forward to, whether it’s plans with friends, trips to go on, goals to achieve, or dreams in life.

It's good to have a relationship as one of your big goals, but you want to have at least two things that you're looking forward to whether that person is in your life or not.

Make sure that there's something pulling you forward in your life that has nothing to do with dating or a relationship.

Trust that you're in this season because you're supposed to be in this season, and maybe there are things you need to learn while being single.

For example, healing my relationship with food and my body was something that was easier to do when I was single. I needed some space to let my body do what it needed to do as I was finding balance in that area of my life.

Another thing is sexuality. A lot of people only think of their sexuality in terms of being with another person, but exploring your sexuality by yourself can actually be an amazing growth process.

Lastly, along with the metaphor of seasons, I want you to remember that in general, in life we always reap what we sow.

Be conscious of what you are sowing into your future with the way that you're thinking, the way that you're managing your mind, the actions that you're taking, and what you're working towards.

You are creating your future right now in this season, so don't just shut down to get through it.

This is a time to think about what you want for the future, and you will be very grateful to yourself for not just throwing away this opportunity of being single.

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This content was originally published on the Women's Dating and Confidence Podcast. Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.